don't befriend me

i'm sitting in my conference room.. all tired n stuff. i think i stole away in here cuz i need to catch some zzzz's. i guess year end always brings with it some let down of energy, at least for work. other things i'm fired up about tho! so yeah - i've turned up the a/c... got the lights on.. put the shades up... and just staring out into... uh.. kennedy road/mid-levels. how i miss having my own room, where i can block stuff/people out, and just chill and relax as i please (oh.. and work as well!).

so weird. i just had lunch w/a friend of mine - another old friend of mine. he's a bud. i mean - we've known each other since my first year of work in HK. then i went to indonesia, and he came there a year later. we had some FUN times there! i mean - he was a broker, and i, a fund manager. if u don't know what that means, as your closest finance friend. i wouldn't say we abused that relationship, but i can say that we had some good times compliments of peregrine (which subsequently went bankrupt in a rash of irregularities) and gk goh securities. hehehe... good times. we've known each other for almost 10 years - during our professional formative years - and i'm not sure i have any other friend that knows me better..

anyway, fast forward a few years (or more), and there we were - sitting in a hongkie americano enclave... the first thing he tells me.. 'cliff, i'm divorced'... i'm like... 'oh no... here we go again' (3 months ago, i had another really good friend break that news to me).

well - here was another case of a person having it all. he had a great job, made very good moolah, very senior dude... just getting into that prime of his life. but u know - i guess he chose the wrong wife? this i never really understood. if u'r dating someone for years, wouldn't you really know her by the time u commit your life to her? i guess for some, it's so easy to say that she is the perfect person for me - and yadayadayada. maybe others do it out of convenience? common law marriage? i dunno. i just know that i wouldn't wanna be in that position after marriage where u'r like - whoa - this is NOT wat i ordered! (hehe)

normally i wouldn't be so taken by these things. but it's just weird that 2 close friends of mine would do this w/in such a short time period. i mean - it's 2 isolated incidents... so i guess the moral of the story is - if u married, don't befriend me. it's dangerous.

oh wells...